DECONSTRUCTING FOMO: FEAR OF MISSING OUT

Lately I have been hearing the phrase FOMO or FEAR OF MISSING OUT.  I found this very interesting as I myself have experienced this phenomena, but I had never been able to label it or thought anyone one else was having similar feelings.  A typical FOMO situation for me usually occurs when I have been invited to a social gathering or event and my higher self or "intuition" has no desire to attend.  This is when my inner fear protests and shouts "But I will be the only one not there!  I will certainly be missing out on fun times!  Everyone will so disappointed if I do not make an appearance!'' All very common inner dialogues that have run through my head while trying to decide to listen to my intuition or give into my FOMO.  There is also a bit of wrestling with my ego involved, but that is another blog for another day.  To face this fear I decided to sit in meditation with this sensation and then draw a tarot card to specifically address this issue.  The card that I pulled was the Prince of Pentacles pictured below:

This is the information I received:

The Prince of Pentacles card is telling me to stay confident in what I feel to be true and to stay aligned with my heart's desires for I am the only one that knows what is best for myself.  The Prince of Pentacles exudes self confidence, but not with out first weighing his options.  This card has a very radiant glow, but also a sense of discernment.  I feel this card is telling me to trust my intuition as it has guided me to produce self satisfying situations in the past.  A sense of accomplishment and peace is sure to follow any decision made from my inner truth.

At any given moment our lives could go in hundreds of different directions based on the choices we make.  We live on a free will planet and most of us have the power to create our own existence based on our choices.  We always have the choice to be true to our heart's desires or to give into fear.  The best answers for ourselves always reside within our own heart.  If we allow it, fear can cloud and distort our vision, but it is up to the individual to become conscious of what is fear and what is truth.  We are each constantly processing our own decisions and how they align with our feelings, thoughts, and desires.  "What was the outcome of my decision and am I happy with it?  What could I have done differently?  Should I or did I listen to my inner voice?" These are questions I find myself asking while processing the outcome of my decision.

Frequently check-in with yourself to see how you feel about your current state of affairs.  As humans we have been blessed with consciousness.  Consciousness allows us to make the decision to let our hearts take the wheel to steer our life choices.  This is what living a loving, passionate life is rooted in.  Once you become comfortable with the practice of letting your heart be your guide you will find that fear based feelings such as stress, anxiety, and depression no longer have the strength to survive in your space, because you have quit feeding into them.   All of these negative feelings that hold us back from our true heart's desires spring from the same origin: FEAR.  Fear of anything is what darkness and negativity thrive on.  Fear of missing out, fear of being alone, fear for the future; they all originate in fear and are basically the same beast.  For generations humanity has bought into the idea of a fear based value system and lifestyle.  Producing inner thought processes such as:
"I must work hard at this job I am unhappy at because, I am fearful of being laid off or fired.  If I am laid off or fired my future is uncertain and that is scary.  I am fearful of being without the money this job provides in order to survive."  Unfortunately, this fear based thought pattern is very common and keeps individuals from creating a passionate career and ultimately a passionate life.  Other examples are found deeper inside the psyche such as:
"I am afraid to express who I truly am for fear that no one will accept or love me."  This type of fear based thought pattern can sometimes be buried so deep and for such a prolonged duration of time that upon surfacing it can destruct one's entire life and effect those around them.

Undeniably, there is shift in energy currently taking place on planet Earth.  Truth is shining through no matter  how long and how far below the surface it has been hidden.  We are being given the opportunity to shift our lives and thought patterns to originate in love, passion, and our true heart's desires.   The Universe is allowing us to make the shift on our own through the decisions we make or by forcing us into situations that can better be described as "the sh*t hitting the fan."  Even though these situations can be fearful and scary while taking place, on the other side we usually find ourselves exactly where we need to be, all while facing and processing our inner fears.

Fear of missing out is simply the tip of the proverbial fear iceberg.  In reality you are not missing out on anything.  You are exactly where you need to be and your intuition knows that.  If it is my true heart's desire to be at the event, FOMO would not exist because I am aligned with my truth and fear and truth do not co-exist together.  When you are living without fear life becomes a flow, and you feel that flow joyfully delivering you from one destination to the next.  Open up to your true heart's desires and let the flow of life take you where you need to be.  Trust that the Universe will get you from destination to destination in a time appropriate manner and surrender to your life experience.  Live without fear and you will find yourself living joyfully.

Blessings!

Tarot by Megan